September 2016

p1150079September 18, 2016    

Dear Friends and Supporters of St. Nicholaus Children`s Center!

Actually I wanted to tell you only the good news from our children`s center – our 5-year-anniversary, the confirmation of our youth, our two new children – but now I have to begin with sad news:
On Saturday, September 10 at 3:27 pm we had an earthquake of the magnitude of 5.7 on the Richter scale. The children were off from school and all were home. Most children were outside or quickly ran outside. No one was hurt. Our house is still standing. However, we were literally „shaken up“. Many people did not realize immediately what was happening. For most people it was the first time in their lives that they experienced an earthquake. This region has never had a major quake. Most likely, there is no connection between the nuclear test in North Korea on September 9 and the earthquake in our region a day later since both countries are far apart from each other but this rather strong tremor was very unusual.
The geological fault line in the Great Rift Valley might have triggered the tremor. Around 10 pm on September 11, we had an aftershock. People responded to this with great alarm. People are tense and afraid of further aftershocks or another earthquake. The quake epicenter was near Bukoba town. The town itself has been affected greatly. 16 people died, more than 250 people were hurt. The quake could also be felt in our neighboring countries Uganda, Rwanda, Burundi, Kenya and the Congo. The vice president came to Bukoba for a memorial service. Because of the poor building structure, more than 800 buildings collapsed and over 1000 houses were seriously damaged. Even at St. Nicholaus we have cracks in the walls but our structure is safe. The whole extent of the damages has not been counted yet and getting help for those who lost their homes is slow to come. The local hospitals have neither emergency nor intensive care units. Therefore, any catastrophe easily overwhelms the capacity of the hospitals. The Tanzania Red Cross Society was on the ground and provided first aid assistance. In sum, we can say that after all God has protected us because it could have hit us more severely. For more information, please refer to the Internet articles attached.
But now let me tell you about the good things:
St. Nicholaus Children`s Center celebrated its 5th birthday!
p1140918On September 17, 2011 we moved in with our first 10 children. We wanted to remember this day with a Mass of Thanksgiving. We invited only a few guests:  The families of our children, our neighbors, people from the parish, priests and Sisters, and supporters of our center. The invitation list grew to over 50 people, together with our almost 30 children and more than 20 employees, it quickly added up to more than 100 people. There is no such a thing as a small celebration in Africa because Africa`s greatest wealth is its people.
It was a beautiful day: Bischop Method Kilaini celebrated Mass together with our parish priest Fr. Justus Kahwa and two other priests from neighboring parishes. It did not rain (!), we had electricity, and music and good food, and our children sang and danced. Everybody was in a happy mood. It was a feast for all the families with disabled children.
It was for the first time that in August we had to say good-bye to two of our children. Maria (19) and Steven (13) had been with us since we moved into St. Nicholaus. I had taken both children away from their family because the parents could not care for their p1130934mentally and physically challenged children. I have known Steven since he was born. For the first two years of his life, he was raised in an orphanage for infants. Then he moved to a nearby hospital because at that time there was no institution who would accept him until we finally opened St. Nicholaus.    
I have known Maria since 2001. She was 4.5 years old then. In 2005, the mother left Maria and her three younger siblings with the father. In 2006, Maria`s condition had worsened due to neglect and I looked for a foster mother to care for Maria. For eight years, Helswida took care of Maria. Today Helswida is one of our caregivers. Helswida, I and everybody who got to know Maria and Steven had a hard time to say good-bye to them and to let them go. However ultimately, we are a home for children and considering her age Maria is no longer a child.

For a long time I had to look for a home for adults with disabilities because, there is no such a place in our area. Fr. Biseko from the Charity Home Kigera in Musoma offered to take both children in order not to separate the siblings. Unfortunately, Musoma is far away from our place. Door to door, it was exactly 400 mi. Nowadays, all the main roads are paved in Tanzania but they are not interstates. Children, people, cows, goats are walking alongside the road. There are no sidewalks for people and many die on the roads. When I am traveling, I am grateful for every accident free mile.  It took us 13 hours each way to cover the 400 mi. Musoma is across Bukoba on the opposite side of lake Victoria. But there are no ferries connecting the towns. The community of Franciscan Sisters who are working at St. Nicholaus are also ministering in Musoma and at least through this connection we get news on Maria and Steven. I am planning to visit them in November. If it were not so far away, we would have visited them already with all our kids.

Hadija und AtugonzaIn August and September, we received two new children: Both are blind and both have been abandoned by their mothers but the children are not related. Hadija is 7 years old. We first met her in 2012. At that time, her mother asked us for advice and help. We sent mother and daughter to an eye doctor. Hadija was born prematurely and her eyes had not fully developed yet. There is nothing to help her eyesight. Four years later on a Thursday afternoon in August the mother returned with Hadija. She wanted to talk to me but I was not in my office at that moment. Therefore, she went to another home for children nearby but did not meet anybody in charge to talk to either.  Apparently she just left Hadija on the compound of the other children`s home and left. The night guard noticed Hadija several hours later. The next morning the wife of the director of this children`s home took Hadija to our house. I recognized the child. I register every disabled child that is taken to our clinic. I found her file and with the information we had on this file we could identify and locate her mother.
We looked for the mother, found her and took her to the small police station that we have in Kemondo. The police advised us to take her to the main police station in Bukoba town where she would be put in prison and where her case would be taken to court. Hadija`s mother was with her 3-year old daughter on her back. I hesitated to follow up with this case considering the impact it would have on the lives of a number of people. Instead, my caregivers and I tried to talk with the mother several times. Finally, she told us that she is HIV positive, a single mother of three. I presume she has been depressed, has not been feeling well physically and has been overwhelmed. Her oldest daughter is already living with relatives. For several days, I tried calling the social worker from the Department of Social Welfare in Bukoba town to ask for advice. But the social worker had no time to receive my phone calls and hung up on me, and never returned any of my calls. In the end, we decided to accept Hadija into our center. In January, when the new school year starts in Tanzania, we want to enroll her in a special school for blind children. Since Hadija has been with us, the situation with the mother has improved. The mother calls me to ask how Hadija is doing and she has visited her daughter several times already. By now, Hadija is used to us and she is a smart, happy girl. She knows how to distinguish people by their voices and how to find her way around. She is easy to love.

Atugonza joined us in September. She too is blind. Her mother abandoned her. People found her and took her to the Department of Social Welfare. This was back in March. The social worker took her to an orphanage for infants. We don`t know Atugonza`s exact age. We don`t even know her name. The caregivers in the other orphanage named her. Considering her height and her level of development, we are guessing her to be about three years old. Her behavior is alarming because she likes to bite and pinch herself and others. When talked to she does not respond but repeats the sentence she just heard. But we don`t know what she went through until she came to live in the other orphanage in March 2016. Right now she is still getting used to us. The Department of Social Welfare found her mother and she has been put in prison for one year.
This general letter has become quite lengthy and I have not even finished sharing everything! One event follows the next and life is never boring in our house.
Let me share more briefly in pictures:
In July, 96 youth received the sacrament of confirmation in our parish, 7 teens are from St. Nicholaus. 
In July, August and September we four new volunteers from Germany joined us. The volunteers are playing with the kids, helping them with their homework and tutor them in math. They are a big help to us.
And finally, I have found a male caregiver for my three boys Christoph, Ashraf and Mtagwaba. Caring for them – especially lifting p1140739them – has become increasingly difficult for our female caregivers. I am happy that Eladius is a physically strong young man who has a big heart to care for the children and to be a good male role model for my boys. 
We are waiting for the rain season. After four months without rain, the soil is totally dried out. Every surface that is not wiped cleaned every day is covered with a thick layer of dust. The air is dusty, we are breathing in the dust, we have dust in the ears and nose. Thanks to our new well that is 164 ft deep we have been blessed with water throughout the dry season.  It is easy to understand why our neighbors have been secretly steeling water from the backside of our water tank! It is time to plant but the rain is not coming.

Thank you so much for your faithful support. Without you, we could not help our children!

Many greetings and blessings from all of us,

Stefanie Köster, children and caregivers

sacrament of confirmation

sacrament of confirmation

St. Nicholaus Children`s Center celebrated its 5th birthday!

St. Nicholaus Children`s Center celebrated its 5th birthday!


our new volunteers from Germany